Tween Crushes

by Diane Stark

When my daughter had a crush on a boy, I asked her to place his name in 1 Corinthians 13:4-6.

She did. "Sean is patient and kind; Sean does not envy or boast; Sean is not arrogant or rude. Sean does not insist on his own way; Sean is not irritable or resentful; Sean does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth." She frowned. "I saw him pick on another boy in the hallway.

I guess he wasn't very kind." She began to rethink her interest in him. This verse has not only given my daughter greater discernment about others, but it also has helped her reflect on her own behavior. I asked my daughter to substitute her own name into that passage. Then I explained that when we become more like Jesus, we become the right type of person for someone else to like.


This article appeared in the February/March 2015 issue of Thriving Family magazine and was titled "Crushes." Copyright © 2015 by Diane Stark. Used by permission. ThrivingFamily.com.


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