Curb Name Calling

by Jackie Castle

During a card game, my friend's frustrated daughter called her brother a hurtful name. I expected my friend to simply correct her daughter, but instead, she brought the game to a halt and said, "You know the rule—three nice for one bad."

The daughter slumped in her chair and sighed in exasperation, "But he deserved it. He's not playing fair."

Mom waited patiently until her daughter finally came up with three nice words to say about her brother.

Before the game resumed, my friend explained to her daughter, "Acting in anger never solves a problem. God wants us to act in love in all situations, even when your brother is being a pain."

Soon the incident was forgotten and everyone was laughing again. I marveled at how my friend's "three for one" rule helped restore harmony in her family.


This article appeared in the March/April 2012 issue of Thriving Family magazine. Copyright © 2012 by Jackie Castle. Used by permission. ThrivingFamily.com.

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