When you leave your son with the baby sitter, your son cries and clings to your leg. You feel awful. The sitter says he's fine once you're gone, but you would like to help him (and you) handle these times of separation better.
Most toddlers experience separation anxiety, and most outgrow this phase. Meanwhile, consistently reassure your little one that you will be back. Sneaking out while your child is distracted is not a good idea. Many experts believe this causes feelings of being tricked and betrayed.
Try these tips to make leaving smoother for both of you:
Be calm and patient. Speak matter-of-factly, verbally confirming your child's fears.
Reassure your child. Tell your child you love him and you'll be back.
Don't drag out the drama. Say goodbye once, turn around and leave.
Check in. If it makes you feel better, call later to see how your child is doing. Most children are fine once their parents are out of sight.
Prepare for smoother transitions with this helpful tool for the baby sitter.
This article appeared in the January/February 2012 issue of
Thriving Family magazine and was titled "Separation Anxiety." Copyright © 2012 by Jean Blackmer.
Used by permission. ThrivingFamily.com.
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