So You're Gonna Be a Daddy

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by Joseph Schneller

You're just about to find out your wife's pregnant with your first child. Your pal Nate (father of two) has said that having a child represents more life change than getting married. Your wife's about to find out that babies aren't the only ones who lie in the fetal position sucking their thumb. But let's take this one step at a time.

For some reason, the idea of how your wife has to use the pregnancy test stick thing is enormously funny to you. The kind of funny where tears run down your face and laughing fits hit you in waves. At one point, between hysterics, you tell her that if it'd make her feel better, you'll take a pregnancy test, too. This also strikes you as the pinnacle of funnyhood.

She, on the other hand, has been reading books such as Taking Charge of Your Fertility and realizes that her husband is "attempting to cope with his anxiety." She understands that your uncontrollable laughter is Step 1 of your coping process, soon to be followed by:

Step 2: bed-wetting

Step 3: the desire to purchase a fast, red automobile.

After waiting three minutes in which the world stops spinning, you and your wife mutter a quick prayer, look one another in the eye and count two pink lines on the stick. Thus follows the most basic and unpresuming conversation the two of you will ever have:

Wife: Is that two lines?

You: I count "two."

Wife: Are you sure that's two lines?

You: Well, there's the one line there, then there's another line by the first. So, taken together, that makes two.

Your wife looks at you and screams like a 13-year-old girl who's just seen her best friend for the first time since yesterday. You look at your wife and scream like a camper who's just spilled a jar of honey on himself in grizzly bear country. After dancing around awhile, counting the lines again, crying then recounting the lines, your wife gets on the phone to notify first-tier family and friends. Second-tier friends will have to wait until the second trimester, which apparently begins on March 28. Your wife knows this without even looking at a calendar. She then counts the pink lines again.

While she's on the horn, you realize that the baby's growth and development are really the secondary purpose of the nine-month gestation. The primary purpose is so that you can get used to the idea of being a father. Right now, the most profound things you're saying are, "Wow!" and "Oh, man!" and "That's just, I mean . . . wow!"

You see, your wife's been meditating on motherhood since she was 4 years old. You, on the contrary, have been considering fatherhood for about, hmm, five minutes (if you round up). So, in an effort to control your breathing, you head downstairs and flip on "The Show Before the Show That Precedes the Pre-Game Show." That's when you find several items on the coffee table that weren't there last night:

1. What to Expect When You're Expecting

2. a magazine on pregnancy

3. a baby name book the size of a box of Cocoa Puffs.

These have appeared so quickly that you realize your wife had them stashed away at the bottom of her sweater drawer. Flipping though the pregnancy magazine, you think about asking your wife if she went to the bookstore while you were, uh, blowing your nose this morning. But then you glance at a page that says your baby's heart will begin to form during the second month.

"Really?" you say out loud. "That early?" Sitting down, you mute the TV and turn the page.

So you're gonna be a daddy.


This article first appeared in the February/March 2009 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. Copyright © 2009 Joseph Schneller. All rights reserved.

Joseph Schneller became a dad for the first time in July of 2007.

 


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